Feeling stuck? Discouraged? Like the goals you want for yourself are way out of reach?
One of my favorite authors and motivational speakers, Jim Rohn said,
“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.
You don’t have to change that much for it to make a big difference in whatever it is you want. A few simple disciplines can have a major impact on how your life works out in the next 90 days, let alone in the next year or the next 5 years.
Not too long ago, I suffered from crippling anxiety and panic attacks. The kind where you literally can’t. I couldn’t get out of bed, couldn’t do normal daily activities, bouts of crying uncontrollably and feeling like I couldn’t catch my breath were my new normal. The worst part is I couldn’t even tell you what was wrong! On the outside, it looked like what would I possibly have to worry about or feel anxiety towards? I had a great life with so much to be grateful for.
I am in no way saying this for sympathy, nor am I making light of anxiety, as I believe it is a very important topic and real problem. But, I think what it was for me, was that my expectation for how my life should look up to that point was different than I had imagined, and it was like I woke up in someone else’s life, cause this was definitely not mine. I was WORRYING all the time. I was out of balance or alignment with who I was and who I know I can be. The distance between the good life I was living was too far from what I actually want and desire out of life…. which is a GREAT life! Trust me, I was grateful for that life, but there is nothing wrong about wanting MORE!
At some point without me even knowing it, I let the “dream stealers” and “self doubt monsters” in to my head and they kicked off their shoes, made a snack and were so comfortable that I didn’t know how to kick them out. I listened to them up until that point and not my true self.
By finally defining my vision for my future and setting out a roadmap and then living INTENTIONALLY everyday… I am headed in the right direction and too focused to worry or talk myself out of living my best life.
People with a vision succeed because they know exactly where they’re going. They don’t worry that they won’t make it, they just keep doing the do until they’re there. And- once they have accomplished their big, audacious goal, they don’t stop! They stay hungry. Warren Buffet is still hungry. He didn’t get to the top and say “I’m good and I don’t want to be better!” The man is 88 years old and still an innovator and big dreamer!
At the end of everyday, I ask myself these 10 questions:
Am I closer to reaching my goals?
Did I complete my non-negotiable activities?
Did I show up for myself?
Did I treat my body with love?
Did I help another in need?
Was I present for my family?
Was I a good friend?
Did I show compassion and forgiveness to anyone who may have upset me or who’s views differ from mine? (Ahem, social media politics)
Did I speak kindly of myself and others?
Did I do my personal best?
If I can’t answer yes to any of those questions on any given day, it tells me that I need to do something different the next day. The same wind blows on us all, but it’s about the direction of the sails that determines our destinations.
The reason I am able to sleep at night is because I have developed the discipline to do everything within my power to not settle for a mediocre life. I don’t have enough time to worry. If I can’t sleep it’s because I drank too much fizz, but not because I was up worrying.
If I feel I am lacking in any area, I don’t dwell on it, I don’t look back, I don’t beat myself up or feel unworthy. I simply move forward with faith, a graceful heart, and a commitment to do better tomorrow.
Did you know the average person thinks anywhere from 50-60k thoughts a day? 95% of those thoughts are the same thoughts as the day prior. We take all the stress, worry, and fear from yesterday into today. LET IT ALL GO! Your past does not determine your future. It took me a while to learn this.
My family and friends will tell you at my lowest point I can be the most negative hypochondriac out there. You wouldn’t believe the things I told myself and the limiting beliefs that held me back from just being “Heather.” Through lots of self help and loving myself where I am, I no longer let worry and fear control me.
I share this with you not to impress you, but to impress upon you that you can love yourself where you are too. I’m still a long way from where I want to be, but the beautiful thing about this life is that there is a lesson in every day, whether it’s good or bad and that if we are in tune and have a desire to grow and change, and live INTENTIONALLY, tomorrow can be better than yesterday and you CAN write your own life story, instead of reading it.
✨I truly believe “what you think about, you bring about.” Stop thinking about all that could go wrong, and think about what could go right! Don’t wake up and say “I hope something good happens today, go out and make it happen! ✨ annnnd, whenever TED talks is ready for me to grab the mic, I’m your girl 😂